Saturday, January 28, 2012

Excerpt from: "You just broke your Child.Congratulations"


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I just read this amazing blog post from "Single Dad Laughing" at . It was about being a better dad to our kids, and controlling your impulses when you need to discipline. You still have to discipline. It should not come from a place of emotional anger, take a walk and think about it then come back and deal with it. Is that not how you would want your kids to handle things when they get angry? One of the things that really struck me was this "Do you not understand that anger is almost always an emotion for people who wish to control others while simultaneously failing to control themselves?"

Could not have said it better myself. As a person who is in process and struggles with anger issues this made me think even more about yelling when my kids spill a drink. No matter how much they could have done better or been more responsible, it is just an accident and they did not consciously do it. here is the beginning of his post, please link to his page to finish reading as it is an amazing and insightful article.

"Dads. Stop breaking your children. Please.
I feel a need to write this post after what I witnessed at Costco yesterday. Forgive me for another post written in desperation and anger. Please read all the way to the end. I know it’s long, but this is something that needs to be said. It’s something that needs to be heard. It’s something that needs to be shared.
As Noah and I stood in line to make a return, I watched as a little boy (he couldn’t have been older than six) looked up at his dad and asked very timidly if they could buy some ice cream when they were done. The father glared him down, and through clenched teeth, growled at the boy to ”leave him alone and be quiet”. The boy quickly cowered to the wall where he stood motionless and hurt for some time.
The line slowly progressed and the child eventually shuffled back to his father as he quietly hummed a childish tune, seemingly having forgotten the anger his father had just shown. The father again turned and scolded the boy for making too much noise. The boy again shrunk back and cowered against the wall, wilted.
I was agitated. I was confused. How could this man not see what I see? How could this man not see what a beautiful spirit stood in his shadow? How could this man be so quick to stub out all happiness in his own boy? How could this man not cherish the only time he’ll ever have to be everything to this boy? To be the person that matters most to this boy?"
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